Whether going through a major life transformation or just a minor change in circumstances, we might wonder whether we’re on the right track. There’s a tendency for change-makers to analyze every aspect, question every move, and overthink every little thing they do.
That’s probably because change can be fun and exciting, but also fairly scary. The scary factor is why many of us become obsessed with doing it correctly. That’s when we start making lists of pros and cons, weighing different options, getting advice from people we trust, and spending hours online searching for solutions from those who’ve done similar things before.
Turns out though, while planning and strategizing are common ways to approach change, they’re not necessarily the best ways to go about it — at least not if we care about happiness anyway. Structured techniques for change and the rigid frameworks we’ve been taught are too generic and sterile to reflect anyone’s uniqueness. Changing in a way that makes us happy — in alignment with our soul’s purpose – is really the ultimate goal, right?
Allowing Yourself to Flow
I suggest there is another way to approach transformation — a better way – that requires letting ourselves flow and seeing what happens. Though it might sound reckless, flowing is actually a more intuitive way to evolve in our own ways, unlike the ways we’ve been taught that treat people all the same.
I love the word “flow” because it brings about thoughts of relaxation and a gentle sense of “letting it be”, like water babbling in a brook, or waves smoothly lapping on the sand. Flowing is meant to be easy, not forced, so being around water (or visualizing water) is a great way to first practice the art of flowing. Breathing is helpful as a flowing exercise, too.
The concept of flow can be helpful when seeking change but unsure of our next steps. Though a formulaic approach involving lists and goals can be helpful, it’s really only in a state of flow that many people can sense (or feel into) their next steps, things that lists and goals can usually never match. Flowing requires patience, and patience often requires trust and forgiveness. But listening to our inner voices is only possible in a state of quiet and flow. There is truly no other way for our higher needs to be met.
Flowing is actually something we do naturally, but many of us disregard instinct and gut feelings when it comes to change. Because we’ve been conditioned to worry about finances, careers, success and other matters, we are compelled to question whether our instincts are actually correct.
With a new awareness, one that honors our instincts (actually listening to our higher selves) we can practice the art of the flow and approach change in a whole new way. Using certain natural or spiritual practices, or just welcoming the idea of being in tune with ourselves, we can become open to watching our lives unfold as they should, instead of frantically trying to control the outcome.
Most of us move from event to event, season to season, and circumstance to circumstance as naturally as we breathe, without focusing much on everyday events at all. And, yet, when faced with something we label of greater importance, we doubt our abilities to handle these events and give away our power as though we have no life experience at all. A gift we can give ourselves at times like these is patience and permission to flow.
See what you think. Comment below or contact me if you have thoughts or questions about the process.
As a coach, writer, recovered over-doer and busyness addict, I understand the challenges of creating a balanced, healthy lifestyle while the mind tries to sabotage your success. In my journey to vibrant health, I created a personalized health system of nutrition and supplementation, lifestyle changes, and I retrained my mind and the energy of my body. I view my success as the formula to my happy, healthy life. I now empower other women to create their own personalized formulas, including the tools and strategies just right for them! Amazing life shifts come from our relationships. I look forward to helping you, too!