Corny as it sounds, life is really about making choices. Each of us gets a bunch of choices to make every day, and it’s up to us what we decide to pick.
A very simplistic explanation, I know.
Yet when you look at what you actually do every day, you’re really just making choices all day long. Every day, the same thing. Decision to decision to decision.
The outcome of one choice is what influences what the next one will be. Then, the decision you make on that one decides what happens after that. And so on. It’s basic causation, which just means that everything is related to (or causes) something else. Like setting up a bunch of dominoes and watching them fall down. Or eating an entire bag of Doritos. There’s always something that happens next, whether it’s glee or a giant stomach ache or something else.
Always Our Choice
When you look at life this way, it’s easy to see how we’re constantly creating it. But you’re thinking this can’t really be true. You’re remembering all the times that things were out of your control or you had no choice at all. You’re remembering times when things would’ve turn out differently if you’d just had a choice.
But, you did.
See, there’s a secret you might not know. It’s that no matter what’s going on around you, you’re still always in complete charge of your life. Though it might seem out of your control, there are two things you always control: your participation and your reactions. Nobody can choose those things but you. So you’re still always in charge no matter what.
Two Important Laws of Creation
Law #1: You get to choose your level of participation
Law #2: You get to choose how you react
So, in reality, even when you think you’re not in control, you always are. The choices you make to participate combined with the quality of your reactions are everything. Life responds exactly as you tell it to. Therefore your future unfolds exactly as you directed it to do.
None of us can ever say we haven’t chosen exactly what we got.
Let’s apply this principle to our own lives. By making more deliberate choices, we impact every next step, then every next step after that. Happy people do this all the time, do they not? By paying attention to every little decision you make, you can start doing the same thing, too.
Today, when dreaming of the life you want, force yourself to get super specific, and write all those things down. Then, glance at that paper throughout the day as a constant reminder of what you’re trying to accomplish. Allow it to inform every decision you make, especially when the choice isn’t really clear. Allow it especially to guide decision making that is usually very automatic, for it is then that we often create our futures without even realizing we’re involved at all.
I encourage you to think deeply about causation, and consider how truly easy it is to control the circumstances and events in your life that stand in your way. Practice making deliberate choices on a daily basis and begin noticing how the tiniest of shift can impact the larger picture of your life.
Here’s to creating!
As a coach, writer, recovered over-doer and busyness addict, I understand the challenges of creating a balanced, healthy lifestyle while the mind tries to sabotage your success. In my journey to vibrant health, I created a personalized health system of nutrition and supplementation, lifestyle changes, and I retrained my mind and the energy of my body. I view my success as the formula to my happy, healthy life. I now empower other women to create their own personalized formulas, including the tools and strategies just right for them! Amazing life shifts come from our relationships. I look forward to helping you, too