If you’re in physical pain right now, I feel you.
You’re not looking to read lengthy articles on conditions and cures, options and solutions. You have zero interest in taking courses or buying programs full of techniques not guaranteed to work on you anyway. And the last thing in the world you want right now is to have to listen to somebody’s else’s story.
I respect that. You have pain and you want answers now.
So, let’s get right into it.
A New Perspective on Pain
I’d like you to try a new way to view your pain. It’s a very rapid way to ease pain, and it’s simple and easy, but — I’m warning you – can only work if you’re willing to bend your mind and your perception to see pain differently than you are right now.
Let me explain: you’re going to look for the gifts (messages, lessons, benefits) that are hidden in your pain.
It’s as simple as that. And yet there is nothing more profound.
Hear me now.
I want you to name what’s actually good about your pain. Really.
I hear you scoffing. I can see you reaching for the next open tab… BUT, before you click off, wait. This really helps. And you have zero to lose from trying it — except maybe, knocking down your level of pain a bit.
I’m here to tell you, from experience, from working with others, from volumes of anecdotal and scientific reading, that looking for the lesson in your pain, the message, some little nugget of information, can literally be the key to surviving what seem insurmountable. Unbearable. Intolerable.
Try This Approach
First, describe your pain any way you can, in terms like:
- its color
- its emotion
- its voice
- its location
- its size
- its strength
- its personality
Next, ask yourself, if your pain could talk, what might it say about…?
- people you associate with
- things you do
- circumstances of your life
- lack or limitations
- goals, aims and dreams
- anything else that pops into mind
Next, force yourself to look honestly at what this pain has:
- stopped you from doing
- caused you to begin doing
- made you face up to
- enabled you to see clearly
- connected you to
- put you in contact with
- allowed you to put a name on
- forced you to admit
Finally, examine what the pain has either brought into your life, or removed from your life, for instance:
- or anything else
My point is, find the silver lining. I promise, there is one. Your only job right now is to find it.
Make no mistake, in this exercise, we are not disrespecting your pain. It’s real, and both you and I know it. And the last thing we want to do is trivialize it…like all the “could be worse” and “if you would only” and “at least” advice-givers. (Those people stink by the way. And, who knows? They might even factor into the results you get from these exercises, too.)
Instead, we are just looking for the gifts. Whether it’s as simple as not taking on so much, or as major as disconnecting from a long-term problem source, pain starts to look entirely different. This shift, this new perspective, gives you room to move from the role of pain sufferer and victim, to the place of being a controller — even a conqueror – of our your own unique possibilities.
Some people emerge from this process as truth-tellers, sages and wise women, compelled to share their gifts with others. Others simply emerge stronger, more confident, more in touch with themselves and the messages coming from within their bodies. This explains why many pain-sufferers go on to make great change, make huge impacts, and — yes – often tell their stories. But, you don’t have to take that burden on right now. All you’re interested in right now is a better life.
Who wouldn’t want that result? It’s much better than any alternative.
So — I applaud you. For it’s not easy to look at pain for what it really means. Chances are, just recognizing this pain has a purpose has already somewhat lightened your view. Perhaps the emotional charge has already been greatly lifted from you, too.
Should you need to re-read this article many times, please do. Take time with the thoughts and questions, perhaps meditating upon them daily for a while, too. Know that once you have found one small gift from your pain, other treasures will become easier to unearth, too. Soon, the accumulation of these precious gifts will begin changing your thoughts, bringing about a more greatly attuned perspective on your life, and a level of personal growth you’ve perhaps never experienced before.
Kindly share in a comment the secret gems you’ve discovered in your own personal pain, or what lessons have come from such discomfort? What have you overcome? How did looking at pain differently allow you to do so?
Standing powerfully with you,
As a coach, writer, recovered over-doer and busyness addict, I understand the challenges of creating a balanced, healthy lifestyle while the mind tries to sabotage your success. In my journey to vibrant health, I created a personalized health system of nutrition and supplementation, lifestyle changes, and I retrained my mind and the energy of my body. I view my success as the formula to my happy, healthy life. I now empower other women to create their own personalized formulas, including the tools and strategies just right for them! Amazing life shifts come from our relationships. I look forward to helping you, too!