Healing in your own time

Life would be easy if it came with a set of instructions, wouldn’t it? Imagine if everyone received a guide to being healthy, overcoming conflict, and leading a happy life?

I’m kidding, of course. But, crazy as it sounds, that’s just what most of us look for when we’re struggling — a set of fool-proof instructions to follow so we can start feeling better again.

In today’s world, it’s easy to find ideas and solutions in all kinds of places, and even easier to find people willing to take our money as we experiment upon ourselves. The harder thing, but really the only thing that works, is finding what works for us — which isn’t always the same as what works for other people.

This truth may be hard to hear since simple solutions are so much easier. Masking symptoms or numbing ourselves is a lot less time intensive than really figuring out what’s wrong on a sub-level. But, the truth is that healing occurs on a much deeper level than any protocol we find in a bookstore or a pharmacy. Real healing only happens when we get real with ourselves, look deeper, honor our uniqueness, and discover exactly what it takes for us each to be whole again.

One of the most important parts of healing is to recognize our own journey is unique. Though our struggles may be similar, there are so many things about each of us that is different. Understanding we are not all the same is often the key to finding peace in the journey, and in granting ourselves patience as we await our own perfect timing on the road ahead.

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As a coach, writer, recovered over-doer and busyness addict, I understand the challenges of creating a balanced, healthy lifestyle while the mind tries to sabotage your success. In my journey to vibrant health, I created a personalized health system of nutrition and supplementation, lifestyle changes, and I retrained my mind and the energy of my body. I view my success as the formula to my happy, healthy life. I now empower other women to create their own personalized formulas, including the tools and strategies just right for them! Amazing life shifts come from our relationships. I look forward to helping you, too!

Honoring traditions without harming ourselves

As if modern life wasn’t busy enough, there are certain times of year when many of us just take on too much. Holidays and celebrations which should be joyous can become overwhelming when we forget to apply the principles and practices that keep us healthy all year long.

For most of us, making family memories and honoring ancestral traditions is an important part of special days of the year. The intense pressure we put on ourselves can leave us feeling like failures if we cannot do everything we’ve planned, or completely unwell for overextending ourselves to the point of exhaustion and sickness.

In today’s video message, I address the notion of honoring family traditions and trying to do it all. If any of this message resonates with you, you can begin to explore all the ways of handling extra emotional charge this season.

As always, let me know if I can help. Now, watch this:

[Editorial note: I accidentally blended the phrases “east coast” and “western hemisphere” in this video.]

Much love,

As a coach, writer, recovered over-doer and busyness addict, I understand the challenges of creating a balanced, healthy lifestyle while the mind tries to sabotage your success. In my journey to vibrant health, I created a personalized health system of nutrition and supplementation, lifestyle changes, and I retrained my mind and the energy of my body. I view my success as the formula to my happy, healthy life. I now empower other women to create their own personalized formulas, including the tools and strategies just right for them! Amazing life shifts come from our relationships. I look forward to helping you, too!

Freedom after injury (how releasing layers of emotions will help you heal)

I’ve talked previously about removing emotional charge and why that’s important (there’s a video explanation below if you need a refresher). Since I got a first-hand opportunity to test those principles again this weekend, I’m using my experience to illustrate the real potency of this technique.

My hope is that this would help you the next time you or someone you know is in pain.

Believe me, this works. That’s why I feel so much better today.

My Painful, Stupid Mistake

Have you heard of the intercostal muscles? Yea, I hadn’t either until a few years ago. When I tore one. And again yesterday. When I did the same thing again. Ouch.

Intercostals are the muscles that lie in between your ribs. You can strain, pull, sprain, or tear them during activity, sudden movements, or gradually over time from repetitive motion. When compromised, these muscles will hurt. SO BAD. And, the pain isn’t just intense, it’s unrelenting. Unless you don’t move, which means you’ll hurt pretty much all the time unless you find a position that doesn’t hurt and manage to stay there for 3-6 weeks (which isn’t advised, because it hampers your healing, too).

Intercostal tears will make you think you broke a rib, even though you didn’t. That’s because the muscle in between the ribs hurts, but the pain you feel is around the rib cage. With a true rib fracture, you can barely breathe (don’t ask how I know), which can be quite dangerous. So, an  intercostal sprain is the “preferred” injury of the two, though I really wouldn’t wish this beast on anyone. It’s beyond horrible.

The Emotional Charge

So, when I got hurt yesterday, I immediately lost control. I heard the snap, then the onset of pain was immediate. I was in intense pain, thus crying was the natural result.

But, in addition to the pain, I felt lots of other things, too. Emotions. The kinds I write in the articles on my blog. A flood of emotions came rushing in, including these:

  • Anger: That this happened to me. Again! Because I know how much it hurts and how long it takes to heal.
  • Frustration: That there won’t be much I can do while this heals. Because I’m a do-er, this impacts my schedule, my routine plus my self-esteem. My business, too. I knew this would affect my productivity (and pocketbook) for weeks.
  • Disappointment: About all the events and appointments I’ll have to cancel in the next few weeks, plus the opportunities I’m going to have to miss. Plus, it’s the holiday season — my favorite time of year.
  • Worry: How will I explain to people? Who will I disappoint? How will I get everything done?
  • Sadness: That this happened during a time when my children would be visiting, so it will hamper our activities together. Traditions may get compromised. Feelings might get hurt. If I express how I feel, I could sadden others, too.

Just an Injury?

See, the injury I sustained yesterday was really just an injury. People get injured all the time, and recover. There was no reason to think I wouldn’t heal completely, too.

But, is it really that simple?

No, and here’s why. Immediately, I began layering emotion after emotion on top of my injury. Every new layer was painful in itself. And the combination of these layers created a greater web of pain than I was already experiencing.

The injury was growing so much larger than itself.

Fascinatingly, in the human mind, this happens very quickly. And, in moments of crisis, no matter how much we understand about this stuff, we do it anyway. The habits of a lifetime plus all the examples we’ve learned from previous generations teach us us to behave this way. I was really just reacting as the product of my learning.

Releasing the Extra Layers

So, after a few minutes, I knew I needed to get my head straight. I looked at my external injury, then recognized what I was doing internally to myself. I saw I was screaming at myself, at the other person who was there at the time, at the universe for doing this to me, and at the world for being such a crappy place. Looking back, I’m impressed at the range of emotions I was able to manifest in such a short time (remember, I’m an over-achiever).

Then, I began tapping.

I tapped on all the extra layers I could find, one at a time. I worked first on the anger since it was the most intense. I moved to all the other areas I could think of, and within about 30 minutes was calm and better able to handle the pain. I followed my tapping protocol by tracing all my energy meridians and went back to calm the triple warmer. I moved to Qigong for handling the remaining feels that were stubborn to tapping, then sat in a brief meditation of gratitude, knowing I would fully heal and it wasn’t much worse.

The Result

I am feeling so much better. In pain, yes. But, in much less pain than expected, and in much less pain than last time this happened to me.

With knowledge comes power. I was able to apply these techniques with a fairly miraculous result. My pain is now isolated to a very small area, whereas it was initially very widespread.

Today, I am very optimistic. Happy even. I’m ready for an easy day of self-care, plus I’m easily forgiving myself for anything I can’t accomplish this week. And, if that wasn’t already enough, I’m grateful for the chance to personally test my skills, and the lessons I see in this experience, including the blessing of sharing this valuable information with you.

If I can explain further, please comment, or contact me privately. Keep in mind too, that in a moment of crisis, I can usually squeeze you in for a quick healing session.

Here’s that video I was talking about (there are many more on my Youtube channel):

Hoping all your days are pain-free,

 As a coach, writer, recovered over-doer and busyness addict, I understand the challenges of creating a balanced, healthy lifestyle while the mind tries to sabotage your success. In my journey to vibrant health, I created a personalized health system of nutrition and supplementation, lifestyle changes, and I retrained my mind and the energy of my body. I view my success as the formula to my happy, healthy life. I now empower other women to create their own personalized formulas, including the tools and strategies just right for them! Amazing life shifts come from our relationships. I look forward to helping you, too!

Visibility / Being Fully Seen

A common issue among women is a feeling that we must stay small, or apologize for being seen.  This manifests in many ways, but can be particularly noticeable in videos and other presentations. These moments are uncomfortable for those who’ve already awakened and overcome visibility issues of their own. They’re recognizable as we witness other women making excuses prior to delivering information or speaking her own truth.

In this video, I explain visibility and some of the things it could mean about the beliefs we hold about ourselves. If this is something you’d like to discuss, please continue to  follow, subscribe, or schedule an appointment.

As a coach, writer, recovered over-doer and busyness addict, I understand the challenges of creating a balanced, healthy lifestyle while the mind tries to sabotage your success. In my journey to vibrant health, I created a personalized health system of nutrition and supplementation, lifestyle changes, and I retrained my mind and the energy of my body. I view my success as the formula to my happy, healthy life. I now empower other women to create their own personalized formulas, including the tools and strategies just right for them! Amazing life shifts come from our relationships. I look forward to helping you, too!