Are you a “glass half full” person? Someone who is free-flowing, accepting, optimistic, and able to find good in every situation? If so, read no further.
Unfortunately, not everyone possesses that super power. Deep thinkers, high achievers and perfectionist types can have a hard time with faith and trust, because they’re always busy plotting their very next move. They need to know everything and improve everything, thus impossible to be happy with “what is” or “what might come next”.
Do you lean in that direction, too?
Though we start out curious and carefree as children, many of us lose that trust once life begins to knock us around a little bit. I get it – it isn’t easy staying positive when times get tough and situations swirl out of control. Gradually, we get more grouchy and skeptical. Over time, we lose the optimism and curiosity that was our birth-right to begin with.
What I learned for myself, and how I escaped this pattern, was by studying my assumptions and expectations. I saw that the times that I assumed — even expected – that my life would be frantic or that things would go wrong is when they usually did. Yet, during those times that I relaxed and trusted life, that’s when the coolest stuff happened around me, and often to me, too.
When we find ourselves stuck in this way of thinking, a great question to ask is, “What else is possible?” Being open to anything is how we can begin to allow all that cool stuff in. Asking about possibilities is helpful to remind ourselves all that there is in life besides what we currently experience. Allowing these thoughts means we’re okay with having some of those things become available to us.
Take a moment to reflect on each of these questions, and notice whether they really feel true before moving on to the next:
Is it just as possible to react negatively to a situation as it is to react positively? And depending on which reaction you choose, would it feel better, or would it feel worse?
Is it just as easy to find the “good” in a situation as it is to find the “bad”? And if you find the good, are you more likely to feel as though you’ve experienced something wonderful as opposed to something dreadful?
Is it possible to allow yourself to notice wonderful things more often? And if you did, would it begin to seem as though more wonderful things were actually going on?
Is it possible that by experiencing more wonderful things, over time, you might begin to change your assumptions and expectations? Could changing assumptions and expectations lead to experiencing even more wonderful things?
Is it possible that by experiencing wonderful things, you could actually raise your own state or being — your “energy” or your “vibration” so-to-speak? And if you raised your state of being, is it possible that life might rise up to match your vibration (remember: like attracts like) and provide more experiences with that same vibration in the future?
I know, I know. You think I’m tricking you into believing you can actually alter your state. But, by your own logic in answering these questions, you have illustrated the assumptions and expectations which you live by.
Were you happy with your answers? Or, like most of us, don’t you wish you could invite a little more magic and spontaneity into your life? A little more luck? A little more…dare I say it…fun?
Listen, I know this level of trust doesn’t come easy, that’s why I asked those questions so slowly and deliberately. Especially when life has thrown you more than your share of curve balls and bad luck — it’s natural to expect the worst when negative stuff just keeps happening. I get it.
But I want to help you re-shape your perspective a little bit, and in turn, re-shape your reality. What if you were to use the power of your mind — your energy – and start changing all that? What if you could attract in a whole bunch of cool stuff just by being open to letting it in?
So, what else is possible for you, my friend? Unless you’re happy with your current set of possibilities, I think this is a practice well worth considering.
Brimming with possibilities,
As a coach, writer, recovered over-doer and busyness addict, I understand the challenges of creating a balanced, healthy lifestyle while the mind tries to sabotage your success. In my journey to vibrant health, I created a personalized health system of nutrition and supplementation, lifestyle changes, and I retrained my mind and the energy of my body. I view my success as the formula to my happy, healthy life. I now empower other women to create their own personalized formulas, including the tools and strategies just right for them! Amazing life shifts come from our relationships. I look forward to helping you, too