If you come and visit me, I’d be so happy, I’d fix us tea. Maybe muffins. And if things go well, I will also serve fresh fruit with cream.
But before you visit me, there are some things you should know. You see, I’m a mom just like you, and I can never predict how our visit will go.
Let me warn you, as I try to explain, while hoping not to scare you away.
If you come and visit me, there will most likely be noise. My kids might be playing a game, so there will be shouting. Our dogs might be barking at something, and could even start barking at you, too. There will be things going on outside, like mowers and trucks. And as much as I would like to, I cannot stop the washing machine or the dishwasher, or risk never having another minute to run them again.
If you come to visit me, the phone might start ringing. In fact, it may ring a lot. See, our home business keeps our family going. I can’t ignore calls since lost calls means lost income. I am sorry if we get interrupted as we chat.
If you come to visit me, my house could be a wreck. You see, on Mondays, it’s messy from the weekends, and by Fridays it’s messy from the week. If we can plan a get-together on Tuesday, it’s more likely to be picked up. Then again, we could choose a Wednesday after my kids have done their chores. Maybe we could meet on a Thursday, so I will have all week to straighten up. But if you visit any other day, you’ll need to understand that we live here, and my home doesn’t always look as pretty as I’d like you to see it.
Sometimes, when you visit me, I am embarrassed. It might be about the way I look, since I haven’t had a hair cut in a long time, and because sleeplessness and stress makes my acne flare. It could be about the way I am dressed, since I didn’t have time to get ready exactly the way I had hoped. I could be embarrassed about something my kids blurt out in front of you, something my husband does before he says goodbye, or something you notice in my fridge or in that pile of mail on the counter.
When you come to visit me, there may be tears. A child might get hurt or become frustrated with something I have asked him to do. The tears might also come from me. You need to know that I cry for all kinds of things, and that the things you tell me or the things I tell you could unleash a whole stream of emotions I have been waiting to share.
Please, friend, visit me anyway.
Visit me for me, and not for any other reason.
Visit me, even if you leave having had nothing but a glass of lukewarm water and a covering of dog hairs on the back of your sweater.
Visit me because we can, not because we will eat fancy treats and talk about fancy things and you will admire my fancy home.
Visit me because you may need to cry, and I may need to cry, too.
Please visit me, because when we call or when we text, it isn’t the same as seeing your beautiful face and feeling your warm hug around my shoulders.
So, as long as you’re okay with knowing what it may be like ahead of time, please come and visit me.
I miss you.
As a coach, writer, recovered over-doer and busyness addict, I understand the challenges of creating a balanced, healthy lifestyle while the mind tries to sabotage your success. In my journey to vibrant health, I created a personalized health system of nutrition and supplementation, lifestyle changes, and I retrained my mind and the energy of my body. I view my success as the formula to my happy, healthy life. I now empower other women to create their own personalized formulas, including the tools and strategies just right for them! Amazing life shifts come from our relationships. I look forward to helping you, too!