As a homeschooling mamma for the last couple of decades, you can just imagine how many questions and comments I have heard over the years. Honestly, it is really fun for me to answer homeschooling questions, because I get to talk about something I really love and believe in.
I know I have answered common homeschool questions before, but I thought it might be time for another round. I thought you’d have fun hearing some of the things that people have asked me over the years, and my usual responses. I always try to answer in that way that either educates or doesn’t make the other party feel bad for asking, or both. But, remember as you read — I’m only human 🙂
Here are TEN questions that immediately come to mind, and my stock answers:
- Do the teachers at the schools tell you what books you have to use? No. But even if they did, I probably wouldn’t use the same books anyway. The nice thing about homeschooling is that we can choose our own books or whatever other things we want to use to teach our kids. We don’t have to follow the exact same program the kids are learning over at the schools, which is something we really like about homeschooling.
- Are you sending your kids back to school in high school? No, homeschooling continues up until 12th grade. I mean, we can choose to send our kids to a school or a college to take a couple of classes if we want to, but our kids will always be learning with us, not anywhere else.
- Does someone come to your house and test your kids? Gosh, no. If they did, our dogs would never let them in! But seriously, yes, in some states, homeschoolers are tested or monitored somehow, but not in their own homes. We can have our kids tested if we want to, or we can ask teachers to look at their work, but we just mail a copy of the results to the school district.
- Do your kids have any friends? Yep, sure they do. But they’re closest to our other kids, because they all spend so much time together. We like that our kids have become best friends and really support each other. But we get out all the time, so the kids meet tons of other people pretty much every day.
- But, you’re a teacher. I could never homeschool my kids. Sure you could! It just so happens I was a teacher before my kids were born, but most homeschool parents aren’t teachers. The neat thing is that if there was ever anything I couldn’t teach, or didn’t want to teach, there are a zillion other ways my kids could learn it. I don’t have to teach everything myself. Being a teacher doesn’t make me a good homeschooler. I actually wish I didn’t know so much about schools sometimes, cause it influences how I do things at home.
- Does your church tell you to homeschool? I know a lot of families at our church homeschool their kids, too. Yea, it seems like some churches do have a lot of homeschool families. I guess it depends on where you live. You can find large numbers of homeschoolers pretty much anywhere these days. We just do it because we want to, not because anybody recommends it. I’m not the kind of person who follows any trends, so I just do what I think is right for my kids.
- Did your parents push you hard in school, and that’s why you homeschool? You know, my parents were actually great role models and really hard-working people. They did teach us things at home, but not any more than most good parents probably do. They were more just all-around unbelievable parents who instilled great values and cultivated really strong family bonds among us. That’s probably what makes family so important to me, and I know I got that directly from them. My husband feels the same way about family, so homeschooling was just a natural choice for us.
- Are your friends or family mad at you for homeschooling? Nope. I mean, why would anyone be mad at someone for doing what they think is best for their kids? It’s called being a good parent. I guess if anyone were “mad” at me for homeschooling, I would compare it to any other parenting choice, like not letting kids eat candy all day or not letting them roam the streets at night. People don’t really react to homeschoolers the way you might be thinking. It’s actually very common now.
- Are you allowed to go out? Of course! We can do anything we want to. Most homeschool families I know don’t stay in the house all day. I guess the public still has a picture of homeschoolers sitting at a table, but that’s not really how it looks like all the time. That’s what’s really great about homeschooling, is that we can do our schoolwork wherever, and just live our lives and interact with the world all the time.
- Do you like homeschooling? Yes, we love it. For us, we would never, ever do anything differently. We actually never even think about it because it’s just what we have been doing for so many years. It’s like a part of our lives and we never even think about school, really, it’s just part of everything else we do every day.
- BONUS: Do you have to wear special clothes? (Okay, I was only asked this once, but will never forget it, so I’m including it here. Frankly, I can’t even remember what I said, but I am sure I stumbled over my words, trying to figure out how to respond without a puzzled look or even giggling out loud. Remember, people still have many different ideas of homeschooling and some stereotypes still exist to this day!