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I don’t know about you, but Lucy was always one of my favorite Charlie Brown characters. In her own hilarious and cynical way, she shared deep truths and delivered psychiatric wisdom to anyone who’d listen. Some of my most favorite Lucy quotes from the series would have to be:
“I never made a mistake in my life. I thought I did once, but I was wrong.”
“The only way to deal with people who talk too much is to let them know just how boring they really are.”
And, of course this one that everybody remembers, “You’re just too wishy-washy!”
I’ll never forget Lucy’s tip on solving problems which went something like, “The first step to solving a problem is by recognizing you have one.”
Turns out, she was actually almost right.
While it can be really hard to solve a problem if you don’t know you have one, the real key to problem resolution is facing the situation — not ignoring it or pushing it away.
That’s why I’m talking about speaking the words out loud today. Speaking isn’t just part of the healing process, it’s actually the most important part. And not just saying the words by themselves either. You have to do it while handling your emotions, too.
The talking is what makes all the difference.
You need to do it.
See, when confronting a situation, too many of us stay quiet, ignoring the feelings or trying to bury our reactions so they’re not visible any more. But, as Karol Truman’s extraordinary book and so many other healers have accurately observed, feelings buried alive will never die. Not without deliberately doing the work, that is. And that’s the part I really want you to understand.
Without speaking the words, you might never really come face to face with the issue. Without confronting it, you can’t resolve it. Which means you’ll continue experiencing it for the rest of your life.
When using any kind of healing method, whether it’s tapping or counseling or energy work or anything else, I believe it’s crucial to say the words out loud, even the difficult ones — in fact, especially the difficult ones. I know it seems awkward and doesn’t always feel good, but that’s exactly the point. Saying the words is critical to make the brain and body connection I’ve explained here so many times before.
If words are too painful to speak, it’s okay to say them internally at first. You can even visualize them (or the whole experience) in picture or movie form until you’re ready. But eventually, gradually, as the healing begins, start speaking your words out loud as you heal. That is when their impact finally dissolves and you’ll be free.
As a coach, writer, recovered over-doer and busyness addict, I understand the challenges of creating a balanced, healthy lifestyle while the mind tries to sabotage your success. In my journey to vibrant health, I created a personalized health system of nutrition and supplementation, lifestyle changes, and I retrained my mind and the energy of my body. I view my success as the formula to my happy, healthy life. I now empower other women to create their own personalized formulas, including the tools and strategies just right for them! Amazing life shifts come from our relationships. I look forward to helping you, too