Dr. Marie-Claire Moreau

Educator, Coach, Life Strategist

Temporary homeschooling offers lasting benefits

Parents may wonder if short-term (temporary) homeschooling is a good idea. Whether facing a long-distance move, caring for a family member, dealing with a certain trauma, or just wanting a change of pace, will up-ending a child’s education jeopardize their entire future?

These are legitimate worries, especially when decisions must be made rather quickly. Most commonly, parents wonder if there are any real benefits to homeschooling anyway, especially if only for short time. They worry it may be risky, or just plain selfish, to keep a child home when others are somehow managing in the same situation. They wonder if they’re too “soft”, overly protective, or should trust their own instincts when making such a weighty decision on their child’s behalf.

Justifiably, parent concerns include how today’s decision might impact their students in the long term, especially when students are involved in activities, accelerated programs, or nearing graduation. We’ll look at all these issues today, and more. I hope to give a perspective to anyone facing a difficult school choice at this moment, or who wants to share this article with a friend who is grappling with this decision right now.

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While my professional advice won’t apply to exactly everyone, in most cases, I want you to know that temporary homeschooling can be overwhelmingly beneficial for students, and usually also for their families, too. Not only are the advantages of homeschooling enormous, but the benefits start accumulating on the very first day. Thus, even when only for a short time, say, a few weeks or a few months, the positive effects of short-term homeschooling can potentially impact students for a lifetime. There are very few reasons I can think of for postponing what can be a very positive experience for all involved.

Positive Impacts of Temporary Homeschooling

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Reconnecting as a unit

During periods of change, there is nothing greater than being surrounded by those you love and who matter the most. The solidarity of a family unit combined with the practical aspects of having everyone in the same place can be invaluable during a crisis, or any time the need for support and understanding is higher than normal. Family and friends often come together to circle its vulnerable members for protection. Tested over centuries, this is especially valuable for children, and should be considered any time a child’s well-being is at stake.

Getting to know your children as students

Too often, often through no fault of their own, parents become disconnected from their child’s experiences outside the home. By working with children not just as kids, but also as learners, parents glean valuable information about what has (and hasn’t) been successful in traditional school settings. Even when issues cannot be addressed at home, they can be brought to a school’s attention at a later date. In either case, children win by receiving needed services, remediation, or a change of environment altogether.

Opportunities to teach life skills

When life gets busy and chaotic during the school year, it leaves little time to teach the practical skills kids really need for their futures. In only short periods of time at home, kids can be taught simple things like cooking, laundry and minor household repairs. And, without a whole lot of effort (comes mainly via modeling and participation) children who spend time with their families gradually learn such valuable life skills as personal finance, health and wellness, team work, child care, and so much more.

Sparking (or fueling) new interests

Homeschooling comes with more flexibility, which usually equates to less rushing to and from meaningless activities. And when time resources are increased, children benefit by finding time to do the things they love to do. Whether it’s discovering a book series or starting a new hobby, time means igniting new passions or practicing existing skills. Extra time also gives parents an opportunity to facilitate a child’s efforts, by providing supplies or just offering praise and support. With minimal supervision, children’s lives are expanded and enhanced with the gift of time, something not always afforded during a traditional “school year”.

Filling in gaps of all kinds

It usually isn’t until we’ve spent a lot of time with someone that we notice what they’re truly like. This is exceptionally true in families who never spend more than a few hours together per week. When students are home — even for a short while – parents tend to observe what they didn’t realize was there. Mending emotional hurts, correcting simple misunderstandings, even noticing educational holes means these can be addressed before sending children off the next year. The simplest of things sometimes make the greatest impact. There is no better use of time than focusing on small problems before they snowball into larger issues later on.

Positive experiences and outlook

I’d be remiss by not listing all the other benefits of short-term homeschooling that are impossible to measure, or even define. While homeschooling doesn’t work for everyone, those who do it tend to look back with much fondness. Pointing to benefits in lots of different areas — from health and well-being, to greater access to resources, to flexibility of lifestyle, to overall contentment – homeschoolers tend to really enjoy the experience, even when it didn’t last forever.

What About The Future?

In all the examples you’ve just read, it’s easy to see how the benefits earned by homeschooling temporarily should never be lost, even when children go back to traditional school. Any possible inconveniences or schedule disruptions are usually more than outweighed by the lasting impacts of being home, even if just for a little bit. Knowing how successful homeschool graduates tend to be, there is no need to worry about doing it for a short length of time. If anything, it should be a boon to both student and family.

Regarding concerns over educational outcomes, it’s important to remember that educational content is recycled and revisited many times before students ever graduate from public schools. What that means is, there’s very little chance students won’t get to make up “lost” material before they’re through. And older students, especially those nearing graduation, are very well-practiced and capable of producing work in short periods of time, not to mention exceptionally resilient over many years of functioning within the same system under fluctuating circumstances. It’s highly unlikely a brief period in which students missed classroom lessons will make any difference at all.

Yet, time spent with a family, whether it’s shoring up relationships or mending wounds, can’t ever be replaced. All that said, if temporary homeschooling is what your family needs at this time, you have permission to do so without guilt, and without excess worry about the future.

Are there ways that homeschooling has positively impacted your family — even if you only did so temporarily? Please share a COMMENT to encourage more of my readers. And, thank you, for all you do for your children and family, no matter what form of education you choose.

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Dr. Marie-Claire Moreau is a college professor who traded in her tenure to become a homeschool mom 20+ years ago. A homeschooling pioneer and the founder of many groups and organizations, she works to advance home education, and is an outspoken supporter of education reform coast to coast. Her book, Suddenly Homeschooling: A Quick Start Guide to Legally Homeschool in Two Weeks, is industry-acclaimed as it illustrates how homeschooling can rescue children and families from the public school system, and how anyone can begin homeschooling within a limited time-frame, with no teaching background whatsoever. A writer, a homeschool leader, and a women’s life coach, Marie-Claire mentors in a variety of areas that impact health, education and lifestyle. A conference speaker, she has appeared at FPEA/Tampa, H.E.R.I., HECOA, Start Homeschooling Summit, Luminous Mind, Vintage Homeschool Moms, iHomeschool Network, and other events. Her articles have appeared in and on Holistic Parenting, CONNECT, Homefires, Homemaking Cottage, Kiwi, Circle of Moms, and hundreds of sites and blogs nationwide. Marie-Claire can be reached at contactmarieclaire@gmail.com.

Grounding and support (includes activation exercise and free poster)

Anyone can feel lost or disconnected at times. During busy or stressful times, or when we neglect our healthy practices for a few days, we might notice a big difference in the way we feel.

Symptoms

Though everyone is different, when I neglect self-care, I quickly begin to feel irritable. I might scramble to find the right words, or feel unable to collect my thoughts. At my worst, not being grounded leaves me wanting to be alone and with a strong urging to go outside. Interestingly, I experience a lack of balance just trying to stand on my own two feet.

My body sends very clear signals when I’m not well grounded, and I’ve learned to recognize them and what they mean.

Have you noticed your clues?

Activation Exercise:

Remember a time recently when you felt a little “off”. Maybe someone noticed your behavior and mentioned it, or maybe you noticed that you just weren’t acting like your normal self. 

Try to recall what you did/didn’t do that day, or what you did/didn’t do several days prior. 

How did you cope? (Sit the feeling out? Power through it? )

How long did the feeling persist?

Did anything make it worse?

Did anything help you “snap out of it”? 

Luckily, barring something more serious, a lack of grounding is easy to address. We can start by reminding ourselves that Mother Earth is loyal, loving, and always supporting us no matter what. There are other simple practices to re-establish that necessary connection. I doesn’t take long to balance and reconnect if we know what works best for each of us.

Grounding Practices

Easy ways to ground ourselves include:

  • Walking barefoot in the grass or on a sandy beach
  • Sipping tea outside among the trees
  • Breathing exercises, using aromatherapy if desired
  • Observing the night sky
  • Meditation
  • Qigong
  • Visualizing strengthening the root chakra
  • Tapping certain acupressure points
  • Tracing certain energy meridians
Easy ways to ground yourself, plus a beautiful visual reminder:

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Some people find that going for a walk, doing yoga, or exerting themselves through vigorous exercise brings them back to themselves. We all have to experiment to find what works best for us.

If ever you feel disconnected, use any method you like, then quickly reconnect back to the Earth.

I’ve created a lovely reminder for you to hang where it’s visible:

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If you need help, please schedule a video call and I’ll teach you some very effective techniques.

In awe of Mother Earth,

As a coach, writer, recovered over-doer and busyness addict, I understand the challenges of creating a balanced, healthy lifestyle while the mind tries to sabotage your success. In my journey to vibrant health, I created a personalized health system of nutrition and supplementation, lifestyle changes, and I retrained my mind and the energy of my body. I view my success as the formula to my happy, healthy life. I now empower other women to create their own personalized formulas, including the tools and strategies just right for them! Amazing life shifts come from our relationships. I look forward to helping you, too!

Beautiful things (includes activation exercise & printable poster)

I’m in the midst of decluttering our home (again), so I’ve been donating boxloads to local thrift stores, and bagsful to lovely people in my community who distribute items to those in need. Though I declutter all year long, I tend to do it more when ultra-busy or stressed. Which describes this entire year so far. Which explains why my family can’t fit in my car right now.

Perhaps you find it counterproductive to take time away from really important things to spend time cleaning and organizing. I don’t. Since clutter is so distracting and stressful for me, spending time getting rid of it actually frees up space in my heart and head. I can focus much more clearly on other things once all the extra stuff is gone. Just like I can’t work at a messy desk, I can’t function in a cluttered environment, either.

Too much “stuff”actually works against me. You might say (as I do), clutter just drives me nuts.

This isn’t just me. Walk by any book store or search for minimalist bloggers. Many are now recognizing the benefits of having less. If you haven’t tried it, I highly recommend spending a few hours in the nearest closet or junk drawer.

Great benefits come from having less. I highly recommend an hour in a closet or junk drawer.

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People have their own rules about decluttering. Mine include asking my children before giving anything away, asking myself whether anyone has used it in the last 2 years, and trying to predict if I might feel compelled to replace it after I give it away.

But the most important question I ask myself is this one:

Does it bring me joy?

Whether I’m thinking of acquiring something new or getting rid of something old, the joy question is usually the deciding factor. Because if it doesn’t bring joy, nothing else really matters. Joy is the only reason I’d ever want to move something, clean something, find a home for something, or otherwise keep track of something I own. When I boil it down, joy is pretty much the only reason I ever want to spend money, either.

To me, the joy question undercuts everything else. No joy means less value. Less value means weighing how much inconvenience it causes to me or someone in my home. Or how much inconvenience I’m willing to put up with, if there’s a least some amount of joy in having the item to begin with.

What each one of us finds beautiful is different. But, how beauty affects us is the same. Gazing on something beautiful creates positive emotions, and with time, positive associations. Otherwise, in my mind, it’s just clutter. Practical, necessary clutter, maybe. But without beauty, since clutter has the potential for adverse effect, weighing that is crucial before bringing it into our lives.

Keep in mind, other beings can be beautiful, too. Unless they’re not. Now there’s something big to think about.

Exercise:

Identify 3-5 objects or beings in your home environment. These can be items on a kitchen counter, small artifacts displayed on shelves, or any items found in drawers or closets. These can also be people or other beings you associate with on a regular basis.

One at a time, think how it makes you feel.

Is it beautiful? By what definition?

Does it have a purpose (what is it)? Is its purpose honorable or meaningful in a way that justifies it being in your home?

Does it make you think of something? Is that something pleasant?

How would you feel if it were no longer there?

Use these results to aid in decluttering. If decluttering isn’t possible at this time, use the results to limit contact with certain objects or beings that don’t bring joy.

Still struggling with the concept of reducing clutter and surrounding yourself with beauty? Grab my PRINTABLE REMINDER to aid in the process of eliminating that which doesn’t serve your highest self:

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Standing with you as you move toward greater beauty,

As a coach, writer, recovered over-doer and busyness addict, I understand the challenges of creating a balanced, healthy lifestyle while the mind tries to sabotage your success. In my journey to vibrant health, I created a personalized health system of nutrition and supplementation, lifestyle changes, and I retrained my mind and the energy of my body. I view my success as the formula to my happy, healthy life. I now empower other women to create their own personalized formulas, including the tools and strategies just right for them! Amazing life shifts come from our relationships. I look forward to helping you, too!

Is this your year to home school?

It’s a brand new year. With the mess finally cleared and the good china put away, now’s the time that many of us reflect on the past and get ready to start the new year fresh. Maybe clean eating is on  your list of changes to make this year. Perhaps you’re planning how to use that gym membership you bought last fall. Whatever your goals, a new year is always a great time to wipe the slate clean and make the next 12 months the best they can be.

So, let me ask you. Has the thought of homeschooling entered your mind this year?

I wanted you to know that, right now, as I write this, there are many parents thinking the very same thing. Only 2 weeks into the new year and I’m already receiving dozens of calls and messages from families who are trying to decide.

Considering the state of American education, I can’t say I’m the least bit surprised. Homeschooling has already been growing for decades. Last year’s news did nothing to quiet the worries of parents concerned about their kids; if anything, it only made things worse.

I don’t have to tell you know about school closures, school failures, and excessive testing. I know you’re aware of  escalating drugs, bullying and gun violence in school yards. Add in budget cuts, teacher frustration, children with unmet needs, and the gamut of ways that American schools are failing children, it’s easy to understand why parents might start thinking of going it alone.

Unless you’ve really lived the homeschooling lifestyle for a while, it might be hard enough to understand what it even is, let alone how it might work in your family. If you’ve used the school system for a while, it’s as scary as jumping off a cliff, seeming more reckless than jumping without a bungee.  It can be as foreign as learning a new language or as intimidating as a statistics text.  And yet, despite all fears and misunderstandings, my colleages in this industry also report a larger-than-average number of inquiries about homeschooling this year.

So, what does it really mean to home educate? Where do you get the books or the curriculum to follow? Can you still keep working your job? And what happens to the kids — socially and psychologically – after they’re pulled off the school yard? Do they get into good colleges? What will your family and friends have to say about all this?

Do you have these questions, too?

You should know from the start that homeschooling is completely legal in all 50 states, and has been legal for many years. You should also know that lots and lots of people are doing it (millions and millions at last count). Can that many people be wrong?

The next  thing to understand is that it works. I mean, really works. Since homeschooling is fairly mainstream, there are now lots and lots of large and respected national studies showing how well it works. Every study I’ve read (and I’ve read almost all of them) have concluded that home education works. It works academically, it works socially, and it works by turning regular kids into highly contributing, well-functioning adults.

And guess what? The parent’s background doesn’t even really matter. Taking into account family income, a parent’s educational background and more, homeschoolers come out on top. Backed by this research, you may consider the decision to start homeschooling with great confidence.

Admittedly, reading and learning about homeschooling can be intimidating. Plus, the volume of information out there is overwhelming at best. But, with so many available resources, not to mention all us veteran homeschool parents out here cheering for you, you probably do have what it takes to succeed. If that’s the decision you’re ready to make.

If you’re sitting on the fence about home education, it’s probably because you know homeschooling isn’t a whim. It’s not an impulse decision, or a trend this year that you’ll be embarrassed to admit the next. Homeschooling is a commitment, and a very serious one at that. That doesn’t make it hard, or irreversible, and it doesn’t mean you have to be a genius or even college educated to do it. It just means, like other big decisions, it requires research and planning before making that giant commitment. And, like other big decisions, it means you commit to giving it an honest try.

Consider this about homeschooling. There has perhaps never been another issue, method, philosophy or basic point-of-view able to unite such a large number of families as homeschooling. Because of its singular emphasis and the common thread woven across the nation from homeschooling family to homeschooling family, homeschooling is able to ignore, side-step or circumvent every major barrier you can imagine. It happens everywhere and anywhere, regardless of religious, political, or cultural experience; and despite income, parental IQ and geography. Instilling a lifelong love of learning and providing a childhood full of academically-rich experiences is of such importance to so many families that it crosses insurmountable obstacles to accomplish.

For some families, homeschooling is simply put on their hearts for reasons they do not even really understand.

If homeschooling was in your heart last year, or the thought is tugging at you right now, maybe it’s time to get off the fence and do something about it.

Is this YOUR year to homeschool?

Dr. Marie-Claire Moreau is a college professor who traded in her tenure to become a homeschool mom 20+ years ago. A homeschooling pioneer and the founder of many groups and organizations, she works to advance home education, and is an outspoken supporter of education reform coast to coast. Her book, Suddenly Homeschooling: A Quick Start Guide to Legally Homeschool in Two Weeks, is industry-acclaimed as it illustrates how homeschooling can rescue children and families from the public school system, and how anyone can begin homeschooling within a limited time-frame, with no teaching background whatsoever. A writer, a homeschool leader, and a women’s life coach, Marie-Claire mentors in a variety of areas that impact health, education and lifestyle. A conference speaker, she has appeared at FPEA, H.E.R.I., Home Education Council of America, The Luminous Mind, Vintage Homeschool Moms, iHomeschool Network, and many other events. Her articles have appeared in and on Holistic Parenting, CONNECT,Homefires, Homemaking Cottage, Kiwi, Circle of Moms, and hundreds of sites and blogs nationwide. Marie-Claire can be reached at contactmarieclaire@gmail.com.

What’s your adrenal story? Are you lazy? Are you crazy?

I am not a medical doctor. Use this information at your own risk. 

I’ve been writing about my journey to adrenal health (starting here), sharing my research, and explaining what has worked for me and countless sufferers I’ve met over the years. In the previous article, I recommended adding nutriceuticals to your diet. In upcoming articles, I’ll share even more tips for achieving adrenal balance.

Today’s topic is about looking back on your adrenal journey. This exercise is important since it identifies behaviors leading to adrenal imbalance in the first place. Looking to the past is crucial in avoiding the same kinds of problems in the future.

I’ll use myself as an example. Bear with me as I describe how long this took me to finally figure out.

Back to My Story 

The first time I experienced adrenal fatigue, I was married and in my early 30’s, juggling a challenging job with a stressful daily commute, and trying to deal with several difficult people who just wouldn’t go away. I didn’t know what it was then, but I see clearly in the rear view mirror. I was skipping meals and skipping sleep. Most days, I was even skipping going to the bathroom. I wasn’t taking proper care of myself.

The second time I had adrenal issues, I was chasing around a toddler and expecting another child, trying to maintain a successful career, and still be the kind of wife and mother I thought I should be. Also, those stressful people were still making me miserable — I hadn’t learned how to disconnect from others who stole my happiness. Again, I didn’t know what was going on. But, looking back, I see the stress I put on my adrenal glands (and, frankly, other parts of my body too).

In those early cases, I tried different things and eventually felt a little better. But I didn’t have a comprehensive plan for healing (articles like these weren’t available). Worse, I went back to the same habits after every crisis.

Which explains why it happened a third time after delivering a third child and enduring a houseful of foreign guests a few weeks later. I was beginning to understand myself at that point, so I knew some of the things that sent me over the edge (overscheduling myself, too high expectations, energy vampires, and house guests). Though I finally started disconnecting from people who caused me stress, I remained stubborn about the other life changes I really needed to make.

By the fourth time my adrenals went out, I studied about hormones and the human body and learned everything about natural healing I could get my hands on. Feeling the worst I’d ever felt in my life, I was desperate for answers. With no other choice, I finally put all the pieces together, and healed myself for good.

Examining past behaviors can prevent the same crisis from happening in the future #adrenal fatigue…

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What’s Your Story?

The reason I told you my history was so you would understand how these things can go. It isn’t mysterious, but a clear pattern of not listening to the body as it gradually falls apart.

As you can see, I wasn’t lazy and I wasn’t crazy — what happened to me was real (and perfectly understandable). No amount of being told I needed  exercise or a trip to the psychiatrist would’ve helped. In fact, those things only added guilt and frustration to a struggle that was already hard enough to figure out.

Maybe your story is like mine, or maybe it’s quite a bit different. Your body might be like mine, but probably it’s a little different, too. I could tell you what I did each time my adrenals broke down, but could never guarantee the same results. It’s like that list of stressors I wrote about. I felt better after eliminating certain stressors of mine, but there are likely others that really bother you.

What’s important, then, is to review your own life story. What kinds of things set you over the edge? What are your exact symptoms? When do you notice your adrenal fatigue is at its worst (morning, late at night, after a meal)? Do you notice anything different when you eat/don’t eat certain foods? Keeping a journal for a few weeks can be really helpful when answering these questions. If you’ve got recent labs or blood work, tuck those in your journal, too.

You’e not lazy or crazy. Here’s what to do. #adrenalfatigue #notlazyorcrazy

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Stick with me as we conclude this series in the next few articles (SUBSCRIBE on my home page if you like). If you start doing the things I’m suggesting, I think you’ll notice improvements very soon.

As a coach, writer, recovered over-doer and busyness addict, I understand the challenges of creating a balanced, healthy lifestyle while the mind tries to sabotage your success. In my journey to vibrant health, I created a personalized health system of nutrition and supplementation, lifestyle changes, and I retrained my mind and the energy of my body. I view my success as the formula to my happy, healthy life. I now empower other women to create their own personalized formulas, including the tools and strategies just right for them! Amazing life shifts come from our relationships. I look forward to helping you, too!